Do you wake up in the morning hoping that today will be different?

That today will actually be the day you’ll shake that sense of self-loathing. The nagging feeling that something inside you is wrong.

Maybe you can’t even remember a time when you did not, in your heart of hearts, secretly suspect that you are damaged or different.

These unacceptable feelings can take so many forms: in anxiety, depression, or in the way you cannot get close to others.

Or they reveal themselves through a trail of failed relationships or self-destructive addictions.

Hi, my name is Nadja.

I know what it’s like to have these feelings because I’ve felt them myself.

My first sense of feeling this way started when I was only twelve. I felt hopeless, alone, and unlovable.

Back then I didn’t know it was because I had damaged and narcissistic parents, and I also didn’t know that they were doing their best. All I knew was how awful I felt.

So I started smoking to numb the pain: a pack a day!

Then I started drinking.

(And I must admit: developing hopeless crushes too.)

On the surface I appeared to be doing very well, winning horseback riding competitions every weekend and having lots of friends. But on the inside, I felt broken.

Hi, my name is Nadja.

I know what it’s like to have these feelings because I’ve felt them myself.

My first sense of feeling this way started when I was only twelve. I felt hopeless, alone, and unlovable.

Back then I didn’t know it was because I had damaged and narcissistic parents, and I also didn’t know that they were doing their best. All I knew was how awful I felt.

So I started smoking to numb the pain: a pack a day!

Then I started drinking.

(And I must admit: developing hopeless crushes too.)

On the surface I appeared to be doing very well, winning horseback riding competitions every weekend and having lots of friends. But on the inside, I felt broken.

I began to look for answers and read anything I could get my hands on about what makes humans tick. While it helped some, simply understanding it all wasn’t enough and I knew I needed more.

So I began therapy in college. I was lucky because I found a clinic whose approach went beyond what I like to call the “symptoms shuffle.”

(Ever driven by an AA meeting after it ends? Everyone is smoking and drinking coffee by the gallons. But replacing one addiction with another would just not do for me!)

Through therapy I healed from the trauma of my childhood beyond what I imagined possible.

I did this by going deep into my feelings, grieving, taking risks in my daily life, and confronting my fears.

And it worked. I stopped smoking. I started dating people who could love me. Hopeless thoughts vanished.

One day I realized that I could not remember the last time I had felt depressed.

Dare I say it: I began to live. I began to heal.

I’m a therapist today because I want to help anyone suffering like I did heal and grow. And I know that I can.

You probably know why you began feeling bad.

Maybe your parents divorced or you just simply felt rejected by them and alone. Maybe it was much worse and you were just plainly abused by someone you needed and trusted growing up.

Maybe you always had a hard time making friends. Maybe you experienced a traumatic event.

Or, maybe you’re not totally sure why or how you got here, but now you are.

However you got here, it is time to stop watching yourself living and instead start soaking up every precious moment.

You cannot change what happened to you or what was done to you, but you can change what you will do about it starting today.

Now that you are an adult, you can take back your power and find your way out of the darkness.

The way I work is fundamentally different than most therapists out there.

While I’ve met many fine clinicians, in truth many believe it is enough to passively sit and listen to a client while taking notes.

This method strikes me a little as rearranging chairs on the deck of the Titanic.

After working with clients as a marriage and family therapist for more than a decade, I know that most who seek therapy see that parts of their life are like a ship heading for an iceberg – and they don’t know how to course correct.

To change you have to go beyond your understanding of your problems or replacing one bad habit with another one that “isn’t as bad.”

The point of therapy is to help you change your course away from the impending collision and get you sailing toward a safe harbor.

You won’t sit on my couch talking in circles. While change is ultimately up to us, we all need a champion to encourage us to start taking action. I will be that champion for you.

I’ll ask you in-depth questions no one has ever asked you. Questions that in many ways are totally obvious and yet, you’ll realize no one (including yourself) has ever asked them!

I will challenge you not to settle in your job, relationships, or life in general. I’ll never push you if you’re not ready for a certain step; instead, we’ll figure out the reason why you are not ready and help move you past that first.

To change you have to go beyond your understanding of your problems or replacing one bad habit with another one that “isn’t as bad.”

The point of therapy is to help you change your course away from the impending collision and get you sailing toward a safe harbor.

You won’t sit on my couch talking in circles. While change is ultimately up to us, we all need a champion to encourage us to start taking action. I will be that champion for you.

I’ll ask you in-depth questions no one has ever asked you. Questions that in many ways are totally obvious and yet, you’ll realize no one (including yourself) has ever asked them!

I will challenge you not to settle in your job, relationships, or life in general. I’ll never push you if you’re not ready for a certain step; instead, we’ll figure out the reason why you are not ready and help move you past that first.

Through these weekly meetings, you and your life will change, just like mine did so many years ago.

Your pain will be brought into the light so it can be healed and vanish.

You’ll accept yourself more, BE yourself more, and feel calmer and more confident.

In only a few short months, my clients often find themselves doing and saying things they wanted to but never could before – and sometimes things that they never envisioned were possible for them!

Their relationships grow. They start thriving in their careers. They finally move forward.

You can take back control of your life.

Your life will truly be YOUR life, created out of your own choices.

And once again, or possibly for the first time ever, you will be free.

Are you ready to feel free? Get in touch with me now.

Interested in seeing my credentials and professional bio? Here they are:

Born and raised in a small town near Frankfurt, Germany, I attended college courses on psychology at the Johann-Wolfgang-Goethe University in Frankfurt with my mother while still in high school. After high school, I enrolled there to study social psychology and also published articles regularly at a local newspaper.

After moving to Los Angeles, I completed my B.A. in psychology at Antioch University and my M.A. in Psychology at the California Graduate Institute. During that time, I also published countless articles on psychology and the medical field in both Europe and the United States as a science writer.

After graduating, I worked for three years with foster children and low-income families at Bienvenidos Children’s Center in Pasadena. In 2009, I founded LA Family Therapy where I treat adults, couples, teens and their parents.

In 2010, I completed training in Critical Incident Stress Management (CISM) at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center. CISM can help prevent burnout in healthcare workers, police officers, firefighters and other professionals who regularly face human tragedy, but more importantly, it assists employees at any company who have experienced workplace trauma such as a sudden death at work, a crime or mass layoffs.

Since completing my training in CISM, I have provided crisis consulting and crisis counseling to countless companies in Los Angeles, Cedars-Sinai Medical Center, UPS, Bank of America, the US Postal Service, NBCUniversal and Tesla, to name just a few.

The human psyche provides an endless well of complexities and contradictions. And there is a never-ending stream of need in this world for anyone who has an above-average grasp on it, and more importantly, who can communicate this understanding in a meaningful and practically applicable way. My passion for comprehending what makes people tick is largely driven by my desire to help people move forward and make their lives better.

Just recently, I have started to provide online executive coaching for Torch and psycho-education webinars for large corporations. Last but not least, I continue to publish articles and blog posts for my website.